The other morning, as I was making the bed, I caught myself adjusting the sheets on my husband’s side. I knew he’d want them loose—he can’t stand the feeling of his feet being bound, often kicking the covers off in frustration. On my side, though, I like everything tucked in tight, snug, like I’m being “held.” This small moment made me pause and wonder—where did these preferences come from?
I began to reflect. My husband’s mom also dislikes tight sheets, while I grew up in a military household where crisp, tight bedding was the norm—tight enough to bounce a quarter off. And that’s when it hit me: the influence we experience from others is powerful and often subtle.
It’s not just in the small things like making the bed. It’s in the ways we shape and influence those around us—especially our children. A vivid example is my sister. She’s always hated tomatoes. Growing up, she would talk about how disgusting they were, and now her kids hate them too. Meanwhile, I’ve always loved biting into a juicy red or orange tomato, and—no surprise—my kids feel the same way. Our children naturally follow our lead, often without questioning it.
But our influence goes beyond family; it extends to everyone we interact with. We often underestimate the impact we have on others. I’m reminded of John Maxwell’s simple yet profound definition of leadership:
With this in mind, I ask you to slow down and ask: Am I being a positive influence? Am I empowering those around me? Am I aware of how my energy, words, and actions shape the people around me personally and professionally? I often refer to the concept of “Above the Line” and “Below the Line” in leadership. Our influence plays a big part in this. If we’re feeling frustrated or negative at work, others can sense it. A grumpy mood, a sharp comment—it all makes a difference, affecting the environment and the people we lead in a way we dont intend.
I get a bit sad thinking my nephews may never enjoy a ripe, delicious tomato, but it also makes me reflect. Are we influencing others in a way that lifts them up or holds them back? It’s a question worth asking in all areas of life.
So, as you move through your day, I invite you to pause and consider: How are you influencing those around you? What energy are you putting into the world? Let’s be intentional in shaping our influence, knowing that our actions—both big and small—ripple out far beyond what we can see.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. What subtle influences have shaped you? How are you influencing others in your own life? Let’s reflect and grow together.
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